PAGE 6D 20,2017 ASHEVILLE CITIZEN-TIMES AN-0100851643 Dear Abby: I have been married five years and have two children under 3. I grew up in a large Italian-American family; my husband did not. He understand the closeness I have with my family. To him, is just the four of us. He comprehend the need for my family to get together all the time and feels that during holidays it should only be us.
When they are just trying to help us out, he thinks my family is overbearing. My husband travels a lot for work and gets upset if my family shows up to help out while away. Any time the topic of family comes up, we have an argument. He believe in divorce and refuses to go to counseling. It is causing a strain in our marriage, and know what to do.
Please help. a Rock and a Family Dear Between: You obviously married someone with very different values than your own. Your attitude seems unusually controlling. That he would object if your family comes around in his absence is troubling, because it appears he is deliberately trying to isolate you. That he refuses to get counseling mean you avail yourself of it.
It may help you to arrive at a compromise that will satisfy both of you. However, if it you may have some important decisions to make about your future, and counseling can help you do that with a clear head. Then, whether or not your husband believes in divorce will be less important than what you think. Dear Abby: I have been taking tap dance lessons for the last five years. a class of adults with a broad range of age and experience, which is part of what makes it so much fun.
We put on a couple of shows and recitals a year. Ihave an issue with a fellow student, and it bothers me to the point that thinking of dropping out. is a ham. She adds lots of extra flourishes, head snaps, jumps and kicks that in the choreography. She mugs shamelessly for the crowd, and it comes across as more burlesque than tap.
We have spoken to our instructor twice about it, but Marguerite is worse than ever. I hate to quit an activity I love, but embarrassed by Marguerite. disheartening to dance the routine as been taught, only to be upstaged by this antics. I fault her for her stage presence. I do have trouble with her over-the-top ham- miness.
I just wanted to dance, not compete for the limelight. Am I being petty? Baby in Texas Dear Broadway Baby: I think being petty. And if others in the class agree with you, get them together and talk to your instructor about it again. Nobody likes being upstaged, and if Marguerite be convinced to conform her style to the rest of the troupe, then perhaps you all might be happier if she danced a solo. Couple disagrees on the meaning of family Aries (March 21-April 19).
You have the plan, the focus, the stamina to get where you want to go. This is the time for action. The best part about it is that you even have to clear a path. The open road is your invitation. Taurus (April 20-May 20).
Your willingness to try new things even when you know what doing, have a knack for it and know a soul is to be commended. Risk embarrassment, gain confidence. Gemini (May 21-June 21). The idea that comes to you is like a new arrangement of your highest thoughts. More of a remembrance than a revelation, gently leading you in a direction so right for you.
Cancer (June 22-July 22). get a few predictably pleasant hours before the new challenges and influences come along to add spice to your future. You savor the sameness of things most when you know about to change. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22).
Most people say that the honest way is best, yet dishonesty is the norm. Radical honestly would be in fact cruel in many situations. Lead with compassion. a way to be kind and also truthful. Virgo (Aug.
23-Sept. 22). You are part of a team, and forget it. The moment you consider how others will be affected by what you are offering, creating or doing is the moment you go to the next level of success. Libra (Sept.
23-Oct. 23). Your sign is uniquely peace-oriented and conflict-averse. as if you were born knowing that often the way to win the fight is not to fight in the first place. Your pacifism will be good for the world today.
Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Simplicity is more than a style; also a defense against the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune. Life gets better when you resist excess and recognize the easy way.
Sagittarius (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). The old ways are still fun, but they come at too high a cost. Also, they fit the image of who you want to be.
So change what you do for fun not so hard once you decide. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). faithful to your principles yet not so arrogant as to believe that yours is the only correct way.
This flexibility of mind will serve you well today. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). The difference between what you want and what you need can be a lot.
willing to look at this reasonably. You may find great freedom in closing that gap by wanting less. Pisces (Feb. 19-March 20). Some of your people are so inconveniently located that just getting the timing right and making the travel effort to go see them is a gift in and of itself.
But you still have to bring a gift. hit all the right social notes today. birthday (Aug. 20). be receptive to encounters with people who speak to your soul and help you grow.
Many such special connections will be highlights of this solar return. The next three months are for moving to the edge, testing boundaries and pushing past fear. Free festivities and travel will happen in 2018. Virgo and Sagittarius adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 9, 40, 1, 14 and 28.
HOROSCOPES ABIGAIL VAN BUREN DEAR ABBY On this date in: 1866: More than a year after the end of fighting in the Civil War, President Andrew Johnson issued Proclamation 157, which declared that order, tranquillity, and civil authority now exist in and throughout the whole of the United States of 1914: German forces occupied Brussels, Belgium, during World War I. 1940: During World War II, British Prime Minister Winston Churchill paid tribute to the Royal Air Force before the House of Commons, saying, in the field of human conflict was so much owed by so many to so 1968: The Soviet Union and other Warsaw Pact nations began invading Czechoslovakia to crush the liberalization drive. birthdays: Writer-producer-director Walter Bernstein is 98. Boxing promoter Don King is 86. Former Sen.
George Mitchell, D- Maine, is 84. Former U.S. Rep. Ron Paul, R-Texas, is 82. Former MLB All-Star Graig Nettles is 73.
Broadcast journalist Connie Chung is 71. Musician Jimmy Pankow (Chicago) is 70. Actor Ray Wise is 70. Actor John Noble is 69. Rock singer Robert Plant (Led Zeppelin) is 69.
TODAY IN HISTORY AMSTERDAM In the heart of the Dutch capital, on a canal near one of the busiest shopping streets, a floating animal sanctuary called The Catboat provides refuge for about 50 stray and abandoned felines. Known in Dutch as De Poezenboot, the houseboat in picturesque canal belt has become a major tourist attraction, drawing cat lovers from all over the world. The shelter has been operating since 1968, when Henriette van Weelde acquired an old Dutch sailing barge and converted it into a feline-friendly accommodation. Today the boat is run by around 20 volunteers and a few part- time workers and draws about 100 visitors a day. I love the most is meeting all kind of people from all over the said Judith Gobets, who manages the boat.
Cat lover Judy Myton, 79, of Palm Springs, California, was in town for a week with family and said visiting The Catboat was one of the top items on her to-do list. Monica and Tom Buijtendorp live in nearby Zaandam and find themselves at The Catboat every time in Amsterdam. Their cat was hit by a car and died a year ago. several years we have been visiting The Catboat when we are in town, and this time we felt the right time to adopt a Monica Buijten- dorp said. Visitors can make a donation to a cat; the cat keeps living on the boat, and the adopter gets regular updates.
In some cases, visitors also take cats home with them. are, however, very picky about adoptions, as we want to find the right match for the cat and the new Gobets said. Stray cats find a home on an Amsterdam houseboat MUHAMMED MUHEISEN ASSOCIATED PRESS.
